You Are What You Think You Are

by Blair Evan Ball on July 29, 2016


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Have you ever wondered why a sales person will greet one customer with an alert “Yes, mam may I serve you? but virtually ignore another?

Or why an employee will consistently carry out the instructions of one superior but only grudgingly do what another superior requests?

Or why we will pay close attention to what one person says but not another?

Look around you. You’ll observe some people receiving the “Hey, Buddy” treatment while others receive the sincere and important “Yes, sir or Yes Mam” treatment.

Look closer still, and you’ll also observe that those persons who command the most respect are also the most successful.

What is the explanation?


Others see in us what we see in ourselves. We receive the kind of treatment we think we deserve.

The man or woman who thinks they are a failure, regardless of what their real qualifications may be, is a failure in their eyes.

Thinking regulates ACTION!

The person who feels they are not important, is not important in the eyes of others.

  • To gain respect of others, you must first think you deserve respect!

Upgrade Your Thinking

Here is an easy way to help you make more of yourself by thinking like important people think.

  • When I worry…Would an important person worry about this?
  • An idea…What would an important person do if they had this idea?
  • Language…Am I using the language of successful people?
  • Conversation…Is this something successful people discuss?
  • My job or business…How does an important person or successful entrepreneur discuss the job or what they do to others?


The more respect you have for yourself, the more respect others will have for you.

Look important – it helps you think important.

Remember your appearance talks. Be sure it says positive things about you. Never leave home without feeling certain you look like the kind of person you want to be.

How you think determines how you act.

Tomorrow watch who is shown the most respect and courtesy in restaurants, in crowded lobbies, at work, in stores. People look at another person, make a quick and often subconscious appraisal, and then treat him or her differently.

How you act in turn determines: How others react to you.

Think Your Work is Important

There’s a story often told about job attitudes. It involves three brick layers.

When asked “What are you doing?”

  • First brick layer replied, “Laying Brick.”
  • Second brick layer replied, “Making $29.30 an hour.”
  • Third brick layer replied, “I’m building the world’s greatest cathedral.”

Vision will take you places!


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Most fear today is psychological. We live in a fast paced world, and when I talk to my clients or audience when speaking, I ask them this one question.

Going forward will things move at a faster pace or slower pace? 100% of the time people say FASTER!

So my next question is what are you going to do about it? How will you PREPARE?

These are some of the emotions I see:

  • Worry
  • Tension
  • Embarrassment
  • Panic

All these stem from mismanaged negative imagination. Simply knowing the breeding ground for fear doesn’t cure fear.

I see fear especially in older workers relative to Social Media. Why?

It’s not an area that they feel comfortable in, they say it’s for younger people who get it. Well, the younger people get it because there’re around it more. They make the same mistakes we all do, yet they continue to push forward and learn.

Younger people grew up around computers and the internet, Boomers did not. So does that mean we still can’t learn because of our age? Nonsense.

Consider this, how will the teens of today, compare to Millenials in 10 years when it comes to technology?

FEAR is what halt’s most people.

My father taught me something that is part of what I believe and practice to this day.


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He would always be studying and learning until he drew his last breath. So I read all the time, and study what is going on in Social Media and how these Social Media Platforms tie into business.

Are the changes sometimes frustrating? Yes!

Do we have control over these changes? NO! We do have control over our desire to learn, develop and grow. So get on with learning and doing!!!

Knowledge instills Confidence, Confidence instills Enthusiasm, and Enthusiasm sells.


Fear is real.

  • Fear is success enemy #1.
  • Fear stops people from learning something new.
  • Fear stops people from capitalizing on new opportunities.
  • Fear can wear down your physical vitality.
  • Fear can cause uncertainty.
  • Fear can cause a lack of confidence.

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Truly, fear is a powerful force. In one way or another fear prevents people from getting what they want from life.

The first step in overcoming fear is to face it head on. Define it and accept it for what it is.

The next part is the conditioning process. We are all creatures of HABIT, some good, some not so good. Condition yourself with this fact:

  • All confidence is acquired.
  • All confidence is developed.

No one is born with confidence. I’m not talking about the arrogance you see today, but confidence.

Those people you know who radiate confidence who have conquered worry, who are at ease everywhere and all the time, acquired their confidence, every bit of it.


Indecision, postponement, on the other hand fertilize fear.

Use this two-step procedure to cure fear and win confidence:

  1. Isolate your fear. Pin it down. Determine exactly what you are afraid of.
  2. Then take action. There is some kind of action for any kind of fear.

Focus daily on positive thoughts and emotions.

Destroy negative thoughts and emotions before they destroy you.


Put these FIVE Procedures to Work for You

  1. Action cures fear. Isolate your fear and then take constructive action. Inaction – doing nothing about a situation – strengthens fear and destroys confidence.
  2. Make a continuous effort to put only positive thoughts in your memory. Don’t let negative, self-destructive thought to grow into mountains. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant events or situations.
  3. Put people in proper perspective.
  4. Practice doing what your conscience tells you is right.
  5. Make everything about you say, “I’m confident, really confident”

Practice these little techniques in your day-to-day activities.

  • Be a “front seater.”
  • Make eye contact.
  • Walk 25 per cent faster.
  • Speak up.
  • Smile Big!

About Blair

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Blair Evan Ball is a Social Media Coach and founder of Prepare1, a company that works with businesses, individuals and non-profits. He is a former executive with a Fortune 50 company, and his national division did $1Billion+ in sales annually.

Blair has written three e-books: Facebook for Business Made Easy, Facebook Pages for Business Made Easy, and WordPress Blog Setup Made Easy.

Blair also educates, trains entrepreneurs and business professionals how to amplify their brand, increase revenues, and raise more funds.

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