3 Powerful Conditions That Affect Personal Change

by Blair Evan Ball on November 3, 2016

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Would you like to change some circumstance in your life?

How about your business or career?

Or does change bring about fear?

All change is from the Inner to the Outer.

If you can run a losing race without blaming your loss on someone else, you have bright prospects of success further down the road in life.

THE LAW OF EMOTION

Your emotions are the energizing force behind your thoughts. The more intensely you feel something, the greater effect that thought or circumstance will have on your life. Emotion is like an electric current, or fire. which can be either constructive or destructive, depending on how it is used.

We are all emotional. Everything you do is based upon an emotion of some kind. We think that we are rational and logical thing. Right?

Remember emotions have the upper hand in any particular situation or decision.

Here’s the key point:

There are two main categories of emotions: Desire or Fear

Most of what you or I do, or don’t do, is determined by one or the other. And the things you and I do, or refrain from doing, because of fear greatly outweigh the number of things you do because of desire.

EMOTIONAL DESIRE

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The more you desire something, the more you are likely to attract that into your life.

  • Success
  • Money
  • Health
  • Promotion
  • Great relationships
  • Great faith

A thought without an emotion behind it has no power to influence you one way or the other. An emotion with no thought to guide it causes frustration and unhappiness.

An emotion with no thought to guide it causes frustration and unhappiness.

But when you are clear on your thought, whether positive or negative, accompanied by an intense emotion of either Desire or Fear, you activate various mental laws which begin to draw that toward you.

So what do you want to attract?

EMOTIONAL FEAR

Most people are immobilized by fears of all kinds.

  • They fear poverty or loss.
  • They fear criticism or disapproval.
  • They fear health.
  • They fear being taken advantage of.
  • Above all, they fear failure and rejection to the point where they are willing to “Leads Lives of Quiet Desperation.”

Most of the population lives this way, most of their lives.

This is why is is so important for you to keep your thoughts on those things you want and keep them off the things you fear.

Successful men and women recognize they are in control and they have the power to control their thoughts. As a matter of fact they are very emphatic about doing so. They know where they are going (Goals – Definite Chief Aim-Vision).

Your mind is very powerful, however you must control your thoughts with great firmness. That will continually keep you focused and moving in the right direction. It’s all about habits.

3 ESSENTIAL CONDITIONS FOR CHANGE

Change is never easy. It requires that we replace bad habits with good habits.

Perhaps the most important discovery in the fields of psychology and success is that fully 95% of everything that you think, feel, do and achieve is the result of habit. Beginning in childhood, you have developed a series of conditioned responses that lead you to react automatically and unthinkingly in almost every situation.

To put it simply, successful people have “success habits” and unsuccessful people do not. Successful, happy, healthy, prosperous men and women easily, automatically and consistently do and say the right things in the right way at the right time.

There are three requirements for developing a new self-concept or image of yourself. These are the keys to changing the direction of your life and business.

  1. You must sincerely Want to change 

You must really want to become totally positive toward yourself and your possibilities. You must have an intense, burning desire to be more, have more, experience more than you’ve ever had before.

I often tell my clients that “When the Pain becomes Great Enough…ACTION will Occur!”

Some people can tolerate and rationalize a lot of pain!

Often people will ask me what can they do to get others to change. I remind them that the starting point of all change, of accomplishing anything different or better, is DESIRE. And DESIRE is always PERSONAL!

You can’t want something for someone else, just as you can’t set goals for someone else. It isn’t that change isn’t possible, it’s just that it requires desire on the part of the person who expects to change, or it won’t take place.

   2.  You must be Willing to change

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How many people do you know who say they are going to change? Many people do want to change, but, in their hearts, they are not really willing to give up the old life, the old associations and everything else that goes with them.

One person may want to be healthy, but may not give up sugar. Or willing to eat more fruits and vegetables.

Another person might want to be financially successful, but may not want to study what successful men and women do. They might not want to be more fiscally responsible.

You must be willing to let go of the old person in order to become the new person. You must be willing to STOP doing certain things, even if your friends, family and co-workers disapprove. In order to START doing the things that are consistent with the new you – how you visualize yourself.

You must be willing to get out of the COMFORT ZONE!

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3. You must be Willing to Make Efforts

Have you witnessed someone with great persistence?

How persistent are you?

Have you seen the determination in someone’s eyes who are totally committed to making it happen?

Guess what…they usually do. Will there be detours along the way? Absolutely. How committed are you?

You must be willing to persevere for a long time without much evidence of progress. That’s harder today in our microwave mentality world. We want it NOW!

Focus on something that has pulling power.

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Action Exercises:

1. Identify the primary causes for the effects in your life. Why are you where you are and what could you do differently to get different results?
2. On a scale of 1-10, how much do you feel that you are in control of your life? What could you do to increase your feelings of control?
3. What do you think about most of the time? What should you focus and concentrate on to improve your life?
4. What are the values, qualities and attributes of other people that you most admire? What actions could you take to incorporate those values into your personality?
5. How much do you like yourself? What are the experiences that give you your greatest feelings of self-esteem, and how could you create more of them?
6. What are your greatest fears? How would you behave differently if you had no fears at all?
7. What can you do, starting today, to feed your mind with more of the thoughts, words, people and pictures that are more consistent with the very best person you could be, and the most important goals you want to achieve?

“Man becomes a slave to his constantly repeated acts. What he at first chooses, at last compels.” (Orison Swett Marden)

Sources: Brian Tracy & John P. Kotter

About Blair

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Blair Evan Ball is a Social Media Coach and founder of Prepare1, a company that works with businesses, individuals and non-profits. He is a former executive with a Fortune 50 company, and his national division did $1Billion+ in sales annually.

Blair has written three e-books: Facebook for Business Made Easy, Facebook Pages for Business Made Easy, and WordPress Blog Setup Made Easy.

Blair also educates, trains entrepreneurs and business professionals how to amplify their brand, increase revenues, and raise more funds.

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